I’ve had several conversations lately with wise women about actualizing dreams, and what I’ve come to realize is that dreams become real when we consciously open them and when we are energetically open to them.
There is both an active/doing and receptive/listening aspect to actualization. Visualization and dreaming are essential–we need to explore in our minds and hearts what it is we really want. But we also need to take action–physical steps that bring us closer to our dreams.
Many of us don’t take the physical steps because of fear of failure or fear of having chosen the “wrong dream.” In other words, what we thought we wanted we don’t really want. Without action, however, we wouldn’t know this.
When I was in massage school, I started with a class of fifteen. By the time I graduated, we were down to eight. That’s almost half attrition. And the surprising fact is that several people dropped out right before the end. It took almost the whole experience for them to realize that this was not what they wanted. This could (and did for some) feel like a real blow. But it can also be seen as a blessing of the active side of actualization. It’s movement. It’s experience. It’s progression. It’s a mirror, reflecting to us what it is we do not want. Without it, we stay safe behind our thoughts and our “what ifs.”
So I am going to ask you the same question I am asking myself right now as I swim in the river of dreamland: what is it that you want to do and how are you going to engage with both your receptive and active sides to open yourself to your dreams?
In the art piece above, the hand is the doing side and the butterfly wings represent the receiving side. The hand sculpts the world, the butterfly opens its wings to meet the world as it is.
When are you the butterfly and when are you the hand–and when do you know when to take active steps toward your juicy, dreamy land of possibilities?