This afternoon I drew from my The Language of Letting Go deck and received the “Getting Calm” card.
Here is its message: “Today I will stop searching for happiness outside myself. If I’m in a frenzied state, I’ll get back on track, and remember that the key to happiness is inside me. Often, after I’ve become peaceful and accepting, what I want comes to me with ease.”
Oh yes, that outside world can be a distraction for what I am truly feeling inside, especially when it feels like happiness and contentment live “out there” and not “in here.” When I want so badly — whether it’s change or greater income or motivation or a feeling of full wellness — I can feel a frantic and fluttering bird energy surfacing as I try and figure things out and furiously try to make my wants happen. Conversely, the traffic jam of thoughts in my brain can make me feel absolutely useless and stuck. Which project do I start on? What do I do first? What can I fix? Ack! Too many questions and too many ways to force things into being!
Here’s the little secret light switch for turning off the outside world’s commercial-like advertisements for our lives, while helping us calm the frenzy inside: it’s called 3-D body awareness. It takes a minute out of your day. Close your eyes. Notice your breath. Don’t judge it. Just notice. Then do a double breath in your through your nose (sniff-sniff) and a double exhale out your mouth (ahhh-ahhh), which sort of resets the brain. Notice all your senses and focus on your body’s sensations. It takes a minute.
Now this is not the only way to have 3-D body awareness and there are many techniques for turning down the volume of a frantic mind, but this is what I do. I take a moment to check in. Some days it feels like I am doing this all day. And each time I tune in, I feel a little “I’m okay” message slip in and a little morsel of peace.
What do you do when you feel the demands of the things in life you can’t control? What happens when you feel like your happiness lives outside yourself? What do you do when you feel frenzied?