“In the end, though, maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love
I am wondering what might happen if instead of saying sorry all the time (as many are compelled to do at times, myself included), we say thank you, instead. A client this week inspired this thought in me.
Many of us have the “sorry” button easily accessible, ready to try to remedy and soothe every situation. Some of us say sorry when, truly, sorry isn’t needed (we know in our bodies when an apology is actually needed). As my client said, “When I say sorry all the time, it’s like giving away my power and the impact of a true apology lessens.” Wise words.
Next time you feel a “sorry” creeping up, see if a word of gratitude would suffice instead. You may find that a word of thanks is actually more powerful and appropriate.
For example, if a friend goes out of his way to drive you to your bus stop on a rainy night, instead of saying, “sorry this was so much trouble,” try, “I thank you so much for doing this for me.”
The gratitude implies understanding and empathy, that you “get” the ways in which this extra effort might have created a bit of stress.
Ready to try it today, on this Thanksgiving day? Try pulling a “thank you” out of your throat when you feel an unnessesary, disempowering “sorry” emerge. How do you feel differently?
And I leave you with a bucket of thanks, with cranberries and whipped cream on top. I wish you a warm, loving day in whatever way you celebrate this day of thanks.